Between a Square and a Cube

April 17, 2011Devon 1 Comment »

I had many titles for this post, just to name a few: “26 Going on Old,” “1 Ticket for the Downhill Slope to 30,” and “26 Ravens Tapping at My Chamber Door.” Now, you can probably guess that I just turned 26. Happy Birthday to me! I first want to start by saying, “THANK YOU!” to everyone for all the birthday wishes and gifts! Second, I have three things I want to share with you that I have realized over this past year.

  1. Mastering communication skills will benefit you in ways you cannot imagine. Having finely tuned communication skills can help you financially, personally, mentally, “friend-ly”, and especially romantically.
  2. Because I am dating again there is an aphorism I have become fond of, “Drinks are an audition, lunch is an interview, and dinner means business.” My little addition to this aphorism; mix them all together and you have “b-lun-der.” Basically, what I am saying, be organized, prioritize, and enjoy an uncomplicated meal (moment) once in a while. As Willy Wonk said, “A little nonsense, now and then, is relished by the wisest men.”
  3. Jack Handy said, “I hope life isn’t a joke, because I don’t get it” — and I feel the same way. Another aphorism — that I cannot stand — is, “Time heals all wounds.” In my 26 years I have decided that this is not true. I have now learned that this saying is missing what is really happening. It’s almost like just treating a symptom and not the cause. You normally hear this saying when a relationship ends or someone passes away. I believe that this type of pain never goes away. In fact, what happens is the brain becomes numb to it. This is actually a scientific thing — it’s called “habituation.” It’s a psychological process in which there is a decrease in psychological and behavioral response to a stimulus (The Corsini Encyclopedia of Psychology and Behavioral Science). In other words, the brain becomes numb to the pain and stops transmitting that it hurt. So it’s not time that is healing us — it’s our own brains ignoring the pain.

I know this post is kinda heavy on the relationship topic. But I am getting so tired in the fact that I keep getting older and older and having no one to share with. Don’t get me wrong, I have family and amazing friends — but I mean that one person that I can share my life with. In the past 10 years that I have been dating every relationship has ended in my getting screwed mentally, physically, and financially. Ugh — But, i’ll keep trying.

Here’s to another year! Maybe 26 will be my lucky number. As we all know, 26 is the only whole number between a square and a cube (52 =25 and 33=27)!

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